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How to be with pain?

How to be with pain?

Through many vicissitudes in life, we need to be brave. The courage to face hardship helps us manage emotions and other feelings that arise in the mind. Shying away from facing hardship, emotions, and other feelings, accumulates them as pain in the body.

In September 2012,

My blog-site is yet to catch numbers of followers. My writer club friends Tagi, Lenma and Najo together ask “Whom are you writing the book for?” My reply is spontaneous. “It seems I am writing for the two people who want to read my book.”

Elsewhere Sonja says “Get an editor, get reviewer to review your work.” Looking for reviewers, I chance upon Tanya. Tanya is an avid reader and reviewer of young adults’ paranormal romance, paranormal fantasy, vampires, were wolves, suspense, anything supernatural, dark, British comedy, erotica, gay-lesbian-bisexual-transsexual, crime. Her social site reveals more. She is going through personal challenges – multiple illnesses. Moved by her pain, I bless her. Blessing will bring relief to the blessed on many levels, financial, health, social, personal. Its effects will stay for up to two months. But then, everyone must go through their share in their lifetime. There are many people suffering through pains and illnesses of the body.

Some illnesses of the body associated with chronic pain are: Pancreatitis, Crohn’s, PTSD, Anxiety, Bipolar, Depression, Diabetes, LUPUS, Fibromyalgia, MS, ME, Arthritis, Cancer, Heart Disease, Epilepsy, ADHD, Autism, M.D. Evan Syndrome, C.M.T HIV, AIDS etc. These are called invisible illnesses. People suffering through them describe their impasse –

I dedicate this section to people going through such pain.

How does pain manifest?

Pain and pleasure are consciousness experiencing through the body.

Pleasure is the experience of consciousness moving on the surface of the body as stimuli. When consciousness shrinks in the body, then the sensation of pain and suffering arises. Suffering is the shrinking or contraction of consciousness.

Pain is consciousness seeking to expand and to become free.

Pain is temporary. The natural tendency of consciousness is to expand, to become bliss. Like the natural tendency of water is to flow downward, the natural tendency of consciousness is to expand and be at peace. When we are in pain, we forget to be at peace and in bliss, just like the person who is an insomniac has forgotten how to sleep.

How to ‘be’ with pain?

Practicing Sudarshan Kriya Yoga (S.K.Y.) regularly removes karmic effects of lifetimes and reminds us of ‘who we truly are’, deep within. In addition, imbibing knowledge, meditation and practicing yoga prepare us in the above process.  Practicing S.K.Y., imbibing knowledge, meditation and yoga together relieve us of pain. I have friends who previously suffered from anxiety/depression/heart disease or bipolar relieved by regular practice of S.K.Y.

The results?

Pain and suffering exist in life, only for us to evolve spiritually in this lifetime. The spiritual evolution is not automatic; it is only through transcending the suffering that we evolve spiritually. Through regular spiritual practices we transcend suffering to relieve pain and evolve spiritually.

The above applies to all pains in life, pains due to emotions, separation or loss, pain of watching others suffering, pain of abuse inflicted by self and others, mental pain and physical pain.

The way out of pain through karmic effects is to try and transcend it, and manage with medication. Through advancement in Science and Medicine, there are many means of pain relief available. While it is judicious to manage pain using medication, it is good in addition to transcend karmic effects.


Note: The above mentioned illnesses warrant pain-killer/anti-depressant drugs that affect the functioning of the bodily systems. It is advisable that people suffering, work closely with their doctors and carers to choose times when they can be off medication to learn and practice the Sudarshan Kriya Yoga (S.K.Y.).

Love you!


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How to Transform Emotions

How to Transform Emotions

Love is not an emotion. Love is at the base of every emotion. Any emotion that arises in us stays with us from a couple of seconds to up to two and a half days. We can wait the emotion out or transform it to what it is, an expression of ‘love’. Here is how I learnt to transform emotions:

8 August 2006,

Since Mukur left eight months ago, the special breathing technique has given me the strength to be with all my feelings, guilt, anger, frustration, disappointment, sadness, and hurt, in the quagmire of dissolution. At first the feelings would stay for a couple of days at a time. Now I am past that, relaxed, happy and at peace with myself. It has given me clarity of my thoughts and feelings. I can observe my thoughts arise and let them be, my feelings stay a couple of minutes to an hour.

In this state, I meet James. I cannot sleep the night, or the night after. My eyes stay ‘open’ for two full weeks. Chandrika diagnoses, “You are ‘in Love’.” My attempts to meet him again, are in vain.

Four weeks after meeting James, my longing continues – I am happy that I feel so light in my being, right now. I am frustrated at times which feels overpowering. Before it leads to anger I want to get to the bottom of this frustration and come out of it:

What am I frustrated about? – That James is not responding. In the quietness of my mind I understand, that if James does not respond that is his ‘response’.

What does that mean to me? – I feel sad.

What is this sadness about? – That the depth of my love is not acknowledged. Oh. I do know the depth of my love to be sacred – I cannot make light of it because of James’ (or anyone’s) ignorance. I delve on this love and its depth. It lives in spite of James and my frustration. With this I know this love is not really about James. This love dwells deep within me. James only opened me to it. With this love I want to protect my very being from hurt and harm.

I think this is the most important analysis I have done in my life to-date. I am excited for me. I take many events in my life and my emotions through them, I practice going through to the bottom of this love with every emotion.

A year later I start meditating every night with a meditation called Transforming Emotions from a three meditation CD set, The Gift of Silence by the Guru. This would settle any/all emotions of the day. After two years, no emotions bother me. Any emotion that arises lasts a few seconds or drops as soon as it arises. Also this same time I learn all there is to know about ‘Love’ through the Guru’s commentaries on Narada’s Bhakti Sutras. This knowledge adds new, deeper meaning to my love for the world, James and me. It keeps me delightfully relaxed.

December 2006,

What love really does to you is that it refines your consciousness. In the state of love, you become sensitive. For your consciousness to perceive the truth, it needs to be in the state of love, which makes you very refined” – The Guru.

The hint I sent James has seeped in. I write James a letter, typed up, about what I like, admire and love about him. I can tell he liked reading it because the day he would receive it, buckets full of energy of pleasance descended on me. Oh. He got it. The second time he read it, I read it with him word for word.

On the Monday, I expect him to call me. I receive an email – a one liner.

I am flattered by your attention. Unfortunately, I am already in a relationship.”

I deliberate upon my experiences on the day I met James and the two weeks after. How can I add meaning to Unfortunately? GOSH. NO WAY. I am not going to take him away from someone.

I reply: “

What I have gained is priceless… I am glad I have enough projects to work on and forget what happened and you have enough wisdom to forgive me for the same.

Love you,”

I cannot fall out of love just because of a line in his email.

My journey about realizing my love and purpose in life starts now?

Love is not an emotion. Loving someone causes emotions. Once we learn to transcend emotions, love remains love and nothing else.

After learning the process of transforming emotions I apply it to every emotion, thought and feeling that arose in me. Each time I would trace the emotion, thought or feeling back to Love for myself and others. I realize “everything in life is about love”; Love is all there is in life.

Love you!